Friendly Boundaries

'Everyone has that one person they want to kiss, but they can't.'. These words a friend passed on to me recently have resonated with me a great deal.

Feelings are something that none of us have any control over, but are however the main thing in our lives we wish we could control. They can lie there dormant for months, even years, without us knowing about them until we end up in a situation where they come leaping out and surprise us.

Bordering on what was said to me, we all have that one friend where that terrible question of 'what if...' pops into our head. A question that a great deal of people never find the answer to, only a handful of people see the good that can come from it and most people test out when white girl wasted and wake up the next morning shrouded in a mist of regret.

With the latter, a situation that I have become familiar with over past months, you're left with a head full of questions and the potential for an awkward situation next time you see each other.

'What does this mean?' 'Where do we stand?' 'Could this go somewhere?' 'Why did he pick now to do it?' 'Maybe I wasn't imagining all the sexual tension that was there?'

My most recent experience with this kind of drunken lapse in judgement ended up with me making out with one of my closest friends, something I never expected to happen. It left me in that pit of questions for almost a week until I got to see him the following week at our weekly friends hangout at (you guessed it) the pub.

Just to try and make this situation easier for anyone that ends up in it in the future, the aforementioned questions are all ones that you will never get answers to. Not in the days following immediately after anyway, maybe not ever. The only question that you should now be asking though is whether your friendship is worth letting all those questions fall by the wayside.

Pursuing answers for the questions you're left wondering about could lead to your friendship falling apart. If like me, the other person is too valuable to you to let slip away, my advice would be to act like nothing has changed between you. Something that is definitely a lot easier said than done, but at the end of the day, why lose someone that means so much to you over a stupid kiss?